It’s that time of the month for me and I am struggling not to let every little thing in the world offend, upset, infuriate or totally shatter me. My poor husband bears the brunt of it, and my colleagues at work take a beating aswell. I’ve tried everything; St John’s Wort, Rescue Remedy, vitamin supplements, Evening Primrose Oil… but nothing seems to keep the monster at bay and once every 28 days or so, she arrives.
It’s usually only 1 really bad day a month, maybe 2, and 2 out of 30 ain’t bad right? For me, it’s not about being angry or sad, confused or miserable, it’s about the lack of control over it all. For 28 days of the month I am calm, collected, polite and helpful and then BAM! the dread arrives and you won’t recognise the haggard, exhausted, puffy eyed, irrational monster crying over the overcooked chicken at the stove at home, or the red faced demon trying to clear the paper jam in the photocopier at work. If you happen to run in to this woman, although she vaguely resembles the Ebby you know, she is not me… BACK AWAY.
I’ve gone through many stages in how I feel about this once a month me, I’ve tried embracing her, denying her, dieting her, yoga’ing her… Of course, in a day or 2 it will all be over and I won’t worry about it for another month but the days will tick by and before I know it, I’ll be crying at the sink again because I’ve washed the pots before the glasses and now the water is too dirty, idiot!
According to the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders about five per cent of women have a severe form of PMS known as premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD). This can be associated with extreme aggression, anxiety and blood sugar disturbances. It can lead to psychosis, suicide and even murder. So men, next time you want to make a joke about “that time of the month”, remember who you might be dealing with!
Face it fellas, you don’t, can’t and never will understand. Heck, we women don’t even understand it! Just know that we love you, and rest assured that the sister, wife, girlfriend or workmate you know and love will be back in a few days.
“Women complain about premenstrual syndrome, but I think of it as the only time of the month that I can be myself”. Roseanne Barr