You’re busted, face it. You told your best friend you were sick and couldn’t meet up on the weekend only to have another friend tag you out at the bar looking anything but sorry for yourself. Caught well and truly red handed in your own lie.
I’ve learnt alot about honesty in my life and I have realised that lies always catch up with you and the truth will always come back to bite you in the butt.
We all have our reasons for telling lies. When I was younger I spun my own fair share of pretty big yarns only to be found out and bullied out of my circle of friends for the crime. I suppose looking back I deserved it, I really told some whoppers!
I was lucky to learn my lesson early on and although like everyone I have been caught in a little white lie from time to time, my friends and colleagues know that I’m a very trustworthy person and I tend to speak the truth, regardless of the consequences and ramifications.
For this reason I deplore being lied to, cheated and messed around. I have no patience for people who want to dance around the truth and be dishonest, even if it’s to save my feelings. You don’t want to meet up on the weekend? Guess what, I’m a big girl, I can take it. Be honest. It’s going to be even more cruel when you get caught out and have to make up another lie to cover up your night out at the club when you were supposed to be in bed with the worst migraine of your life.
Sometimes there’s a fine line between saving someone’s feelings and telling them a bold faced lie. Most of us don’t want to intentionally hurt people so when our workmate asks if our friend would be interested in going on a date with them and we know said friend can’t stand them, we smile and say she’s just really not looking for a relationship right now. Much nicer than telling them what she really said after meeting them at your birthday drinks right?
In the end it comes down to respect and treating people how you’d like to be treated. At the very least, don’t plaster yourself all over social media when the very reason you lied was to hide the fact that you were going out! Remember, once you break trust with someone, it can be very hard to earn it back.
“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.” Friedrich Nietzsche